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Change Your Attitude!

Attitude and Way of Thinking

In order to have happier & more successful life, you need to change your attitude to the positive one. Usually, positive attitude derived from positive & optimistic way of thinking. So, attitude is very closely related to way of thinking (or in other word: mindset).

Many even mix attitude with mindset. They use the term attitude as mindset and vice-versa, or even just regard them as the same for simplicity. But I'd rather define it as the pattern of actions and reactions, consciously or unconsciously, seen or unseen to our environment, resulted from our way of thinking about certain things or events.

From that definition, it is clear that attitude is the result of our way of thinking. A positive and optimistic mindset will result in positive and good attitude, too. Conversely, negative & pessimistic way of thinking will result in negative and bad attitude.

So, it is imperative to reform your way of thinking to positive and optimistic one if you want to change your attitude to positive. But reforming the way of thinking is not an overnight process. It could take long time, depending on your will and persistence, until the new positive mindset can become natural to you.

"Shortcut" to Attitude Change

But thank God, you don't have to wait that long to get the benefits of the positive attitude in your relationship with others. You can start the process to change your attitude by, first, "copying" the good attitude you wish to have.

By "copying the attitude", I mean: you act as if the attitude is already your own nature. For example, if you are a shy guy, you can try to force yourself first to act more openly and confidently: greet your friends first before they greet you, shake their hands more firmly, smile wider, be more talkative etc..

Of course you will feel awkward at first. But ignore that feeling. Just focus on your goal: to change your attitude for having better life.

And do you know something? Actually, copying the positive attitude will in turn help you a lot in the process of rebuilding your mind to the positive mindset. So, it's somewhat like a reciprocal process.

Tips to Change Your Attitude

Some people call this technique of "copying" as "Fake it till you make it". But I'd rather call it "Behaving your way to success" because of the discipline and persistence required in the process, and also the psychological effect of the term "fake" (nobody likes to feel or be called "fake" I guess)

"Okay, so now, what kind of traits that we need to copy?", you ask. "And copy from whom? Who can be our example? We need a model, don't we?"

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