Commitment Phobia in Men

Why? And How to Deal with It?

The Phenomenon

Commitment phobia among men today is nearly as common as chickenpox among kids. Why is that "afraid of commitment phenomenon" so plaguing today compared to one or two decades ago?

Having relationship with such a man sucks. When we thought all was going alright and we were ready to move to the next stage, he stiffened when we talked about it. He said nothing, sweat dripped down his forehead... and never returned our calls the days after.

Or maybe not that extreme. He might just seem uncomfortable and tried to change the topic in anyway he could. But the point is, he did not like the idea of "stepping forward".

The "commitment phobia", a fear of commitment phenomenon, is common among men. Actually, almost all men in the cultures - where loyalty and monogamous relationships are much appreciated - are afraid of commitment to some degree. The problems arise when the fear has grown uncontrollably to phobia that makes him a commitmentphobic.

But too bad, usually it is too hard to identify if a man had been infected with that "disease" or not until everything has gone too far or too long. How could we avoid such a waste of time and energy? Is there a "medicine" to cure him?

Commitment Phobia in Men: Why

The changes in cultures that allow women to be more independent and the advances in information dissemination technology have great impact on traditional man's feeling of security. Women now have many more options and can do many more things that were not even imaginable several decades ago.

That alone can pester man's sense of security, not to mention all the news and gossips in the internet, TVs and tabloids regarding modern day lifestyles. So, what are those "modern" things that have caused many and many more men afraid of commitments? Let's see them one by one.

• Fear of losing freedom.

  Men are naturally very independent, their way of thinking is very different from you. They love to live their lives the way they like and make decisions on themselves by their own rules. It's understandable if they're reluctant to give up their freedom because if a woman enters their lives, they will no longer be able to do those things the way they used to do.

• Hurtful memories and emotional baggage

  Commitment phobia, or fear of commitment, can also be caused by hurtful memories and emotional baggage carried from previous relationships. Bad experiences such as been betrayed or been financially cleaned up (for those who happened to marry the gold-digger type women) make the thought of being in another commitment is terrifying for some men.

• Forever with only one sex partner.

  Men naturally love sexual adventures. A commitment will surely make them cut off from that. Even the thoughts of this can make men lose their appetite!

• Lack of compromise.

  An ideal marriage or any other forms of committed relationships should be 50/50 partnerships. But telltales that men heard are often scary: repeatedly they read or heard how their married buddies were "blackmailed": "Do it my way or no sex!" from their wives (although rarely that blatantly of course).

Read on to learn more about commitment phobia in men on Page 2.

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