Positive Body Language for Men

Unspoken Words Men Need to Know

The Importance of Body Language

 Positive body language is very important. According to research, in verbal communication words only contribute 7% of the whole communication process. The other 93% attributed to tone voice (38%) and body language (55%). Therefore, it is very important to have the right body language.

When approaching a woman for a date for instance, positive body language you show will significantly increase the chance of your success. But the negative one will hamper you from getting the date you want.

You might have the right words, the perfect appearance, on the right time and the right place. But if your body language implicitly shows her that you are not honest about yourself, you will fail.

Remember, women are much better in reading body language than men. It's their natural gift. We just have to live with it.

Positive Body Language

Although naturally body language occurs unconsciously, we can train ourselves to become conscious of our own body language and of other's. That way we will be able to use positive body language for a purpose, in this case, to attract the woman we desire.

No, it's not about faking your character or personality in front of her. You will just learn about what gestures, hand movements or expressions etc that must be avoided because it can drive her away from you.

The key to be successful in getting a date is by being yourself and confident. If you are confident and naturally real, women will be more attracted to you. Equipped with proper skills to use positive body language consciously and ability to read other's body language, you will become one of the most irresistible men in women's eyes.

So, what next? First, we should learn to know the gestures or body languages that people perceive as being negative and avoid them. Then we should learn and train ourselves to use the positive body language consciously so that it becomes natural to us. The key here is: to train yourself to make it natural.

Now look at the table below for common positive gesture list and its meaning. But remember though, the local culture. Because although one gesture that is considered very positive on the west, it can be considered impolite or even insolent in some eastern cultures.

Your body language	What she might perceive
Brisk, upright walk	confidence
Firm, three-pump handshake, with smile and eye contact	a confident, kind and warm guy
Sitting with legs apart	open and relax
Using hands while speaking	excitement, an expressive man
Sitting with hands clasped behind head	confidence, superiority
Stand straight, head-up, smile and hands hung in relaxed position	confidence, have nothing to hide
Occasionally nodding the head and making positive remarks	interest in the topic, agreement
Look into her eyes slightly longer then usual, and smile when eye contact	attracted, interested
Make eye contact in conversation, but don't stare	interest, confidence, have nothing to hide.
Keep your body relaxed. Let hands hang loose, head and shoulders relaxed and straight	relaxed and confident
Move decisively, be brisk and to the point	snappy, competent, confident
open palms	openness, sincerity
head tilted	interested, or evaluating
rubbing palms or crossing fingers	expectancy
rubbing over thumbs	reassuring own self
speak slowly with clear words	authoritative
Look straight to her when talking	You like her, and have confidence to go to the next level
Leaning your body close to her	attracted, and want to go to the next level
Open hands or hands on hips	openness, readiness
Mirror her body language subtly, emphatically	Unconsciously she will sense familiarity with you

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