I see that you are in a very difficult situation. Obviously your boyfriend felt betrayed and lost his trust in you. But the good thing is, he loves you so much, he even seems to adore you. That makes your situation still hopeful. That kind of love could help him a lot in his struggle to forgive you. But you must also do your part. You can't just leave him alone letting him deal with his own feelings as if you wouldn't care.

Wounds caused by betrayal is one of the worst wounds people can have. It is often very tormenting for the one afflicted by it. In fact, many have become "mentally paralyzed" because of infidelity. It doesn't matter whether the unfaithfulness was just emotional or also involving physical contacts, every betrayal hurts - and it hurts very badly.

So, what to do? First of all, admit it to him, sincerely, no excuses and don't be defensive. Then ask for forgiveness. From the bottom of your heart, apologize to him and promise him you will never do such things again.

Be prepared, however, to receive his wrath and angers. He might scorn you, even call you with derogatory terms, maybe not now, but over time he might. But don't hit him back, it would only make things worse. If you really love him and want to keep your relationship with him, you should be willing to endure his outbursts. Just don't take them into your heart. Remember, people often say things they never meant when they're in rage. So, you need to be very very patient here.

You may have to apologize to him more than once - maybe even many times – every time the horrible thoughts come to him again. Yes, it would require patience, great patience, to convince him. So, you need endurance here. As I have implied above, wounds caused by infidelity are among the hardest wounds to heal.

However, I must warn you, set some kind of limitations for your own sake - whether a time frame or limitation on how much you would tolerate him calling you bad names or ill-treating you. Otherwise, you would end up deeply hurt and lose your dignity. Nobody is worth more than your own self. If you do not appreciate your own self, who would?

So, if you feel that you have done enough without seeing obvious progress, then consider a brand new beginning with a brand new guy. Just be careful this time: don't be involved too deeply with any guy until you have passed the rebound period to prevent the same story from happening again. Indeed, rebound relationships mostly end up badly.

Molly, dealing with a heart-break caused by infidelity is a very hard thing to do. If you want to, you may try the steps I described above. But you see, it would be a very hard, long and winding road ahead. It may even be detrimental to your own emotional health. So, why don't you (together with your boyfriend) come to a local priest or a local counselor in your area instead? Professional help might be the best answer for both of you.