Signs Of Commitment Phobia

How To Spot A Commitment Phobic

What are the signs of commitment phobia? How can we identify whether that love interest suffers a fear of commitment or not?

Being in a relationship with a commitment-phobic is tiring and frustrating. Things might seem beautiful at first, but when the time has come for the next stage, all of the sudden everything worsens. He/she acts and says hurtful things as if to sabotage and ruin every good thing in the relationship.

Therefore, unless you have that deep rooted conviction in your heart and soul that he/she is "the one" - that makes him/her worth fighting for - avoiding relationship with a commitment-phobic is a wise thing to do. And below are the signs of commitment phobia that you need to know in order to spot whether your love interest is having a fear of commitment or not.

Signs of Commitment Phobia

There are several signs of commitment phobia. Some are very obvious and easy to spot, but the others might be very subtle that we'll never be suspicious of until that phobia emerges with its ugly face.

Just to make it easier, I will use the personal pronoun "he" instead of "she" to refer the commitment phobic unless I specifically mention otherwise. It is because fear of commitment is more common among men than it is among women. But please remember, the signs apply to both sexes, men and women.

And please also keep this in mind: they're only signs, indications: the more of the signs found, the more probabilities that he is a commitment phobic. Don't take them as rules or laws or something like that. And here is the list.

• What he says about marriage, commitment and so forth

  Some men are very upfront when they talk about things related to commitment. They may say that they don't want to get married or that they will not let themselves settle with one woman.

  But many women seem to just ignore it by thinking or hoping that she will be able to change him later. Little that they realize that such change rarely happens. Usually, things will not get there and all that they get is only grief.

  So, when a man says things like that, take it seriously and give yourself a favor: move on! This is a very obvious sign of few other signs of commitment phobia that you should pay attention to.

• His history of relationships

  Does he have long history of short lived relationships?If yes, then this is a strong indication that he has that fear of commitment.

• Frequent career and/or address changes

  How many times has he changed his address this year? Or last year? Does he often change his job?

  If you know that he has long history of frequent changes of address and/or job, then he might have a severe case of commitment phobia.

  There is no other way for you: either take him to the professionals for a cure, or just dump him and look for more other promising partner!

• What he currently owns compared to what he really can afford to have

  If he rents while in fact he can afford to buy his own house, or not having a car while he has more than enough money to buy a Rolls Royce for instance, he might suffer a severe commitment phobia. Major purchases like that require some kind of commitment.

• Fast pursuer

  Because of their nature of craving for romantic relationship, a commitment phobic usually a fast pursuer. They can be easily be attracted to a woman and then pursue her passionately.

• Anxiety for commitment topic

  How does he react when you talk to him about commitment, getting engage or marriage? If he becomes uncomfortable, closed, nervous or even get mad then it is one of few obvious signs of commitment phobia.

Read more on Page 2 to learn more about the signs of commitment phobia.

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